Change Your Language, Change Your Life

How getting rid of ONE little nasty word can completely change your life.


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Let’s get real: I have a potty mouth. I know and use almost all of the naughty words (except for slurs) and can get pretty creative when it comes to combinations. Almost every year , I pledge to stop swearing as much or if I’m feeling really ambitious I decide that I’m just going to go cold turkey. It never works. I’ve usually dropped a good F Bomb or two by noon and completely given up by five. So maybe I’m just meant to cuss. However, I recently discovered one nasty little four letter word that I can eliminate from my vocabulary. The word? Have. As in I HAVE to go to work. I HAVE to pay my rent/mortgage. I HAVE to call my mom.

You might be thinking that this is a completely harmless word and you might be right. But in my case, the word have comes with that nagging feeling of obligation. It’s that thing that you don’t really want to do but know is necessary for whatever reason. When you HAVE to do something, it's almost never fun. This all came to me as I was standing in line at my bank to get a cashier’s check (I ran out of personal checks and I’m not a real adult so I didn’t pre order more) to pay my rent. I was standing in line, complaining in my head that I have to give them this funky check every month when there are so many other things I could do with that money. Perhaps I was in a particularly good mood that day or maybe I had a good breakfast because suddenly it dawned on me: I don’t have to do this, I GET to do this.

Starting that day, I replaced have with get and my entire outlook changed. I don’t have to go to work, I get to go to work. I don’t have to go to church, I’m simply blessed to see another Sunday where I get to attend a worship service. Coming from a place gratitude as opposed to looking at certain tasks as a burden changed me in so many ways. I found myself being kinder, more patient, and more grateful. On a daily basis, we all take so much for granted and, for me, exchanging that one small word for an even smaller one made me realize how incredibly lucky I am.