Goals and Plans Over Resolutions

Look back at all of your past New Year's Resolutions... did you keep any of them?

I can remember back to some of my earliest New Year's Resolutions: made when I was around ten year's old I VOWED that I would stop eating four Double Stuffed Oreos everyday for lunch. A few days in I failed miserably and ate my routine four Double Stuffed Oreos as part of my school lunch. Why? Well first of all, Oreos are delicious and secondly, I had no plan. I never said to myself, "Instead of asking my dad to buy Oreos from now on I'll ask him to buy a healthier alternative". I just decided to let the tempting double stuffed goodness of said Oreos sit in the kitchen pantry just waiting for me to give in and break my extremely superficial and pointless New Year's Resolution.

Why do all of your New Year's Resolutions get thrown by the wayside?

Why do all of your New Year's Resolutions get thrown by the wayside?

Fast forward to the adult life (which by the way is not as much fun as The Real World made it seem AND there are no Double Stuffed Oreos for fear of having to purchase an entirely new wardrobe) and here I am still resolving to do things that never actually get done. Why? Again, because I have no plan. Which is also the main reason that most adults fail when it comes to New Year's Resolutions or any goals that they set for themselves. 

Lately I have been writing down my goals and making real plans, a step by step guide if you will, on how I will achieve them. Late in December I sat down and really thought about what I wanted out of this year and then a few days later I sat down again and asked, "How am I going to get there?".  I look at these goals every single day and each night before I go to bed, I make a list of all the things I need to do in order to be one step closer to achieving my desires. It may seem like a lot and maybe it is but think about it as taking small bites of a very large pie over a long period of time instead of waiting until it is almost gone bad and trying to gobble it down all at once.

How are you tackling your goals for 2016? Let me know in the comments below!


The Year of Humility

Just when you though you had it all figured out...

Have you ever though that you were winning at life, like really winning? Everything was going according to your plans (which is part of the problem), everything seemed to be falling in place, and then something comes along and grounds you. Like really grounds you. That was 2015 for me. This has seriously been one of the most interesting years of short existence. But I refuse to see it as a failure. I've had a ton of wins but I've also had about twice the amount of lessons and I'm grateful for most of them (it's probably going to take me a little longer to be grateful for a few of them though). I've discovered do much about myself: what I'm capable of, what I need to work on, how resilient I am and plan to use these to better my future. I really and truly believe it can only get better from here.

How to Look Better Part Two

Smiling is a foolproof way to look and feel better

Let's chat some ore about how to look and feel better in 2015! I know that so many of us are looking for the next product or makeup technique to help us be the fairest of them all, but we all know that true beauty starts from within. At least that's what Disney taught me.

My first tip for looking better in 2015 is to LOG OFF. I wish I could say it one thousand times but I still don't think it would be enough. So many of us are obsessed with our social media platforms that we never fully take our attention off of them. Every meal, thought, picture, or memory is somehow shared with the entire world. I implore you to STOP. Even if it's for a few hours, enjoy a phone free meal or have a conversation while riding in the car. I promise you'll enjoy yourself.

My second piece of advice is going to sound odd but it is so necessary and simple: Be selfish! I know someone just clutched their pearls but let me convince you that this isn't a terrible idea. No body (and I do mean nobody) can look after you like you do. You truly have your own best interests at heart while others (who may have good intentions) will have their own interests at the forefront of their mind. Don't feel bad for doing something completely for yourself or saying no to something when it does not fulfill any of your wants and needs.

This last little nugget is going to be the toughest for most women as we are our own biggest critics. Four simple words will change your life: be nice to yourself. Does that sound crazy? it shouldn't! I find it funny that a woman would look in the mirror and tell herself that she's fat or ugly or just not ENOUGH period when she would never even dream of saying that to another woman's face. Ridiculous! We have to stop searching for our shortcomings and weaknesses and start celebrating our strengths. Imagine a young girl could hear everything terrible you thought about yourself. Would you want her to repeat it? I didn't think so. 

How will you all achieve looking better in 2015? Let me know in the comments!

Until Next Time.