Comfy, Casual, Chic

This is a love story about a girl and her very first black jumpsuit.

It was love at first sight. I know from the way she looked at me.

It was love at first sight. I know from the way she looked at me.

Her eyes said it all.

Her eyes said it all.

There are honestly no words that I can use that would properly describe the love that I have for this black jumpsuit. I think I've actually worn it to bed, to church, and to a cookout and I am now wondering why I didn't have at least five of these in my wardrobe sooner. Thanks to the online boutique Tobi, I will be living my best life in my romper all summer long and strongly suggest that you do as well!

Outfit Details

Jumper | Vest (similar) | Vintage Necklace | Shoes

 

What's your summer 2017 uniform?

Stop Doing SH** For Free!

Make that money girl, don't let it make you. - The Players Club

My face every time an email pops up in my inbox talking about great exposure and future affiliate programs #iamunable #icant

My face every time an email pops up in my inbox talking about great exposure and future affiliate programs #iamunable #icant

Me walking away from BS "opportunities" that aren't really opportunities.

Me walking away from BS "opportunities" that aren't really opportunities.

Storytime: Recently, a company that I had reviewed product for in the past approached me with an opportunity. Because I believe in the brand and really liked the product I said yes with no hesitation and all was well and good until I was asked how much I would like to be compensated for my work. When I tell you that I clenched, I could not actually give you a better example of the physical manifestation of my level of discomfort. I had no idea what I was worth, what to ask for, or even if I should be paid at all. I basically said, "Who me? No, I don't need to be compensated" to which the owner replied, and I'm paraphrasing here, "Yes. You do. You get paid for work". If you're a fellow creative or creator then you probably understand the shock waves that went through my body. If you're a fellow creator then you understand that people expect handouts. If you're a fellow creator you're probably used to giving handouts for the sake of "getting some great exposure". If you're a fellow creator I want you to listen real good to the advice I'm about to give you: Stop. Doing. SHIT. For. Free. #thatsall Honestly, it's that simple.

Stop doing shit for free. This is my motto for 2017 and I'm applying it to much everything. Here's why you should too!

Your Work Has Worth

When you decide to pursue your passion as a career or a side hustle, that's when you've decided to put in work. You start investing in your craft in a serious way: time and money become heavily involved. When people start to notice and reach out to you, that means they see worth in your work, they see opportunity in your audience, they see you solving a problem that they have. If anyone wants access to these things, they need to pay for it. 

When You Undervalue Yourself, You Allow Others To Do The Same

In my interaction with the aforementioned business owner, I gave someone else the power to determine my worth. If I was working with someone looking to make a quick buck and take advantage, I could have left that deal pretty raw. Fortunately for me, this person gave me advice when they didn't have to. I've now sat down and thought about my practices AND pricing so that I never again give anyone the opportunity to buy me for cheap.  

When You Undervalue Yourself, You Set Market Price for Others In Your Industry

If I was messy, petty, and had the energy I could publish the countless emails I get from companies wanting me to promote their products or services without even offering me the chance to test them. I often play along because I'm the worst and enjoying wasting rude people's time and eventually let them know that I cannot recommend something to my audience when I cannot vouch for its quality. At first, I wondered why anyone would have the balls to even approach me with such absurdity, but then, I realized, it's because someone else agreed to it. To that person, STOP. FULL STOP. IMMEDIATELY. Seriously, you make it more difficult for everyone else.

You Deserve Nice Things

I'm not saying that money is the key to happiness, but I will say that you cannot buy food without it and food makes me pretty damn happy. If you're putting in hours of work creating content to promote someone's brand (and I PUH-ROMISE you they're making money as a result of your efforts) then you deserve to be paid in some way, shape, or form so that you can have the things that you like and need. 

So to sum all this up, If you are working for someone, you deserve to be paid what you're worth. Point blank. Period. the End.

Why You Should Skip the Clothing Resale Stores and What to Do With Your Clothes Instead

Well that was a mouthful...

Spring is really trying to come through despite the blizzard that I'm looking at through my window which means most of us are trying to clean out our living spaces to make room for all the new things we plan to buy this season and in the summer. If you're anything like me that means that you take an in depth look at your closet and decide that most of it just has to go. At this point you may be tempted to pack a bag of your latest and greatest that you just don't wear anymore (or never got the chance to wear for whatever reason) and take a trip down to the nearest clothing resale shop. let me help you with that: don't. I promise you that it's not worth it and unless you take your designer wares to a high end consignment shop you will barely recoup any of the money you spent.

Now you may be asking why I harbor such a strong dislike for clothing resale shops and I am here to tell you. As I said, you BARELY receive any return on investment (not that designer clothes are actually a smart investment). A designer bag originally purchased for $200+ MIGHT get you around $50 and the store will turn around and sell it for $100-$150. At that point you may as well sell the bag yourself. These stores generally have a list of things or styles that they can buy for any given season and despite having the coolest, most on trend clothing you may not have what they're looking for. And let's be honest, not everyone on staff will be fashion savvy enough to understand your unique taste. 

So now you have a pile of clothes that you need to get rid of but some crazy lady on the internet machine told you not to go to a real store. Well what are you supposed to do now? I'll tell you:

Host a Clothing Swap or Give to a fashionable Friend

There are certain items I don't mind giving away but then when I look at my closet there are certain things that NEED to go someone who will love them the way that I did. Instead of selling these items or giving them away to charity, I give them to the person I have in mind. Another option is to host a clothing swap with people who have the same level of style as you.

Give Items to a Charity Like A Women's Shelter

I'm not a fan of for profit charities such as The Salvation Army or Goodwill because their prices can be a bit ridiculous. that being said, most major cities have men's or women's shelters  that are in need of clothing among other things. 

Sell Your Clothing On Your Own

This is the most obvious option but it does require a little more involvement than just dropping your clothes somewhere and leaving them forever. Sites like eBay make it easy for regular people to sell their clothes and you'll probably get closer to your purchasing price than you would at a resale shop.

How do you get rid of your old clothes?

A Girl, A Dress, and A Skirt

I have waited my entire sartorial life for this moment.

Let's also talk about these earrings from BURLINGTON #iCant

Let's also talk about these earrings from BURLINGTON #iCant

Dress + Skirt = Genius

Dress + Skirt = Genius

Dress | Skirt | Shoes (Similar) | Earrings (Similar)

I feel like I have reached my fashion peek: my whole life, I have known that the day I got to wear a dress WITH a skirt I would #slay (no need for humility here it's just the truth) and here I am doing just that. Seriously though, I had an event over the past weekend that required me to wear black and silver and while I generally don't enjoy feeling obligated to wear certain attire or colors I was really excited when I found this Calvin Klein skirt on super sale. The only problem? I didn't have a top to wear with it and my level of pickiness was not conducive with my timeline. 

Fast forward to the ninth hour and I had a lightbulb over the head moment: wear a dress you already have as a top! I'm not going to lie but I feel like I discovered the secret to crispy on the outside gooey on the inside grilled cheese sandwich (btw if you have the scoop, PLEASE tell me). It's the little things, I guess.

Kisses

Pink, White, and Blue

How else to celebrate Independence Day than to rebel a little?

Suddenly, I'm into pink.

Suddenly, I'm into pink.

...and I'm not quite sure why.

...and I'm not quite sure why.

I was never a "pink girl". I was the roll around in the mud, play outside all day, never to be seen in a dress girl until around age 14. So now, entering my late twenties I find myself obsessed with all shades of pink and wanting to wear it all the time. It's an unhealthy obsession, it really is. And I'm loving every minute of it.

Happy Fourth!

Joelle

Memorial Day Slay Part Two | Day Party

I have to admit I'm a bit of a traditionalist when it comes to clothing; except for a short period of time in college when I was known for wearing tops as dresses (don't judge) I generally wear clothing as it was intended to be worn. But as always there comes a time and a place to break the rules. I originally bought all of these pieces last summer and wore them completely differently (see here and here) but I was inspired to step outside of the proverbial box and switch up my style for the day. The top is actually a VERY body conscious dress and the skirt came as part of a coordinate set that I never actually wore together. Hair provided by B&HF Extensions. In all honestly I love this combo more than the original styling. 

What's everyone wearing/doing on this extended weekend?

 

Product Rundown and Review | B&HF Extensions Hair Crush Products

All products were sent to me for use and review however, this is not a sponsored post. All opinions are my own.

A complete rundown of all the awesome products by B&HF Extensions.

A complete rundown of all the awesome products by B&HF Extensions.

As you guys have probably noticed my hairstyle has been very different as of late. If you follow me on YouTube or Instagram then you probably saw that I have been working with a pretty dope company called B&HF Extensions. B&HF Extensions is a small black owned business based in Georgia that exclusively supplies Premium Peruvian Hair. I have done several reviews and tutorials of their hair on my channel but today I want to showcase their awesome hair care products.

B&HF Extensions has a full line of hair care products that are great for your own hair AND your hair extensions. 

First and foremost I have to say that all of these products are salon quality. You will not find anything similar at the drugstore or Target for a similar price. The line ranges from your shampoo and conditioner (as well as a co wash) to heat protectant and a life giving shine serum. Everything smells amazing but the scent is not over powering and when using the products all together you will not smell like you dumped a bottle of perfume on yourself. The shampoo, co wash, and leave in conditioner have worked wonders on my natural hair and I have found myself rationing the product to hold on to it for a little while longer.

The products that I have been using mainly for my hair extensions are the Blowing Kisses Heat Activated Thermal Protect Spray, Kandy Kisses Spray Laminate, Silk Nectar Shine Serum. These products have kept all of my units looking fresh and helped protect the color that I applied.

My favorite products from the line are the leave in conditioner (which says quite a bit seeing as I normally don't like spray leave in conditioners), the Incredible Moisturizing Shampoo,  and the shine serum. That being said, all of the products are simply amazing and come highly recommended by mw. If you would like to purchase the products check out the B&HF Hair Extensions site here.

Let me know if you guys are interested in trying these products!

Joelle

Memorial Day Slay Part One

Who's cooking out this weekend and can a girl get an invite?

A fun mix of colors and prints to kick off the unofficial beginning of summer.

A fun mix of colors and prints to kick off the unofficial beginning of summer.

Being an Upstate New Yorker I wait for a glimpse of warmth from about October to May (and by warmth, I mean 60 degrees, the bar is set pretty low around here). The weather this year was particularly odd since we didn't get a real Spring and went straight from sweater weather to almost 90 degrees. 

Memorial Day being the unofficial beginning of summer I figured it would be fun to go with s super short short and long jacket to balance out all the skin. And of course, since it's summer time, I figured it was appropriate to mix different colors and prints.

Outfit Details

(everything is old so no links)

Jacket and Shorts | Marshall's Crop Top | Misguided Shoes | Asos Hair | B&HF Extensions

What are you all doing for Memorial Day weekend?

Joelle

The Girl With The Glasses

Getting real nerdy today.

In honor of May 4th I decided to break out the glasses and show you guys my inner "nerd". I had frames way before they were trendy. A result of my constant reading in the dark while I was supposed to be sleep, I was never ashamed of having four eyes. As a matter of fact, I was so excited to get my first pair of glasses and even for my braces that I practically begged my dad to take me the eye doctor.  Such a weird child I was. See what I did there?

Kisses,

 

Joelle

Real Life Introvert, Internet Imposter

The best and worst thing about the internet is that you can be whoever you want to be.

Confession: I've been cat fishing you guys all this time. Okay that's a bit of exaggeration. But I have been pretending a little bit. 

The internet is an amazing place where one can have certain degree of anonymity. Most people who follow me on my Youtube Channel, Instagram, or here don't know me in real life and can only see what I choose to show. So naturally I show you guys the best: The best outfits, hair, and makeup. I seem outgoing and personable. Keyword: seem. 

Full disclosure, in real life I am the most awkward, introverted, and inwardly focused person you have ever met (says every single introverted person ever). I would much rather sit in awkward silence than start a conversation with someone I don't fully know and groups of people actually drain me. So to say that I've been pretending is fairly accurate.

That being said, my inward nature is the main reason I thrive on internet platforms. As a creative it's an amazing outlet where I can place my work without ACTUALLY interacting with people. From the comfort of my home and in my complete solitude I can reach people I normally would never talk to.

So tell me, who are you pretending to be on the internet?